|About the Book|
Weve all seen them: children who explode when theyre told to do something or when things dont go their way. The ones who completely lose control and become verbally and physically aggressive. Spoiled, stubborn, manipulative children. Right? Not soMoreWeve all seen them: children who explode when theyre told to do something or when things dont go their way. The ones who completely lose control and become verbally and physically aggressive. Spoiled, stubborn, manipulative children. Right? Not so fast. These labels suggest that the behavior if such children is planned and intentional, and popular reward-and-punishment strategies are typically used to teach and motivate them to behave more appropriately. But for a significant number of these children, the standard approach doesnt always work. Such children are easily frustrated and extremely inflexible. They get stuck over seemingly simple requests, benign issues, and sudden changes in plans. They may be very anxious, irritable, and volatile. They may have difficulty telling you what theyre frustrated about or thinking through potential solutions to problems. In clinical terms, they may be diagnosed with any of a variety of psychiatric disorders, including oppositional-defiant disorder, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), Tourettes disorder, depression, and bipolar disorder. If this sounds like your child, youre probably feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, guilt-ridden, exhausted, and hopeless.Now there is a new way for you, your child, and your entire family to find help. In this groundbreaking new book, Dr. Ross Greene, a child psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital and Harvard Medical School, makes a compassionate argument that the difficulties of these children stem from developmental deficits in two critical skills: flexibility and frustration tolerance. He asserts that if such children could do well, they would.Drawing upon recent advances in the neuroscience, Dr. Greene describes the factor that contribute to inflexible-explosive behavior in children and why the strategies that work for most children arent as effective for inflexible-explosive children. Then, with the help of snapshots from the lives of children, parents, and teachers with whom he has worked over the years, Dr. Greene lays out a sensitive, practical, effective, systematic approach to helping these children at home and school, including:reducing hostility and antagonism between the child and adultanticipating situations in which the child is most likely to explodecreating an environment in which explosions are less likely to occurfocusing less on reward and punishment and more on communication and collaborative problem-solvinghelping the child develop the self-regulation and thinking skills to be more flexible and handle frustration more adaptivelyIn Explosive Child, youll find ways to regain your sanity and optimism and rebuild the confidence to handle your childs difficulties completely and lovingly. With Dr. Greenes compassionate, expert advice and insight, you and your child will rediscover newfound hope and a relationship you can both feel good about.